Are you currently in a situation where you don’t know whether you are his girlfriend or lover or friend or mean at least something to him? Then BEWARE – you are being the victim of this ‘new breed’ of immature boys who want to treat you like their girlfriend, but not make you their girlfriend.
They would want to get close to you, hold hands with you, touch you and maybe even get you in bed. They would do anything to make you do all that they want you to do.
For an instance – they would make sure to call you to know if your health is okay, send you texts late at night in the initial days (or even months, depending upon how stubborn you are to give up and surrender to them) of conversation to lure you and probably even make good coffee to calm you down in your bad days… but trust me – you better drink the poison before drinking the cup of coffee made by their filthy hands because later, you are going to have the taste of their handmade coffee at the tip of your tongue for a long time and no matter what beverage you drink, you would never be able to replace it.
That’s how good they are at their worst selves (if you know what I mean). One day, they would just leave you scarred, without warning (or even teaching) you about the closure that they never give to you. They are cold, very cold.
This new breed is heartless, ruthless, aggressive and probably just looking for being ‘friends with benefits’ with you, but without terming it that way, knowing you are against it. No matter how strong you are, how strict you are, how reserved you are or how much you keep yourself away from ‘love’, they would do anything and everything to grab your attention, probably even talk to their best friends about you so that you feel like they have a serious thing for you. However, in the end, you would be left alone, burning to die. The worst? They won’t be bothered… probably because they have already begun hunting new girls/women.
So what are the common traits of this new breed in town? They would:
- target women, not girls (mostly women 30 years or above) because they probably have certain fantasies related to women at least three years older to them.
- target divorced women, single mothers and those going through a tough emotional phase.
- target the “tougher” women, who aren’t easy to crack; dear tougher ladies – you are like a challenge they would do anything to win!
- behave like they are reserved, serious and introverts, but in the end, they are just selfish and internally ugly (don’t go on their cute-looks; the charm is all that they use to lure you).
- behave like they are interested in all the little to big things you do, but all they are attracted to is what you have preserved for so long (your soul, not just your body).
- try to hold your hands, calm you by touching your hair/cheek/fingers, hug you for a long time or maybe even get into a physical relationship with you – yes, they would do everything they want, but just when they want it. After all – “you are not his girlfriend, are you?”
Trust me, it is NOT okay to fall in love with a boy like this. Even if you guys part ways – you won’t be able to understand whether it is a breakup or did you just end up with a so-called-friend-who-never-took-you-as-a-friend? I mean – what the hell just happened?
Here are a few common statements they SAY to you, if you are their new victim:
- “I am too scared to love anymore.”
- “We are just exploring new stuff… nothing else.”
- “I like you, but I can never fall in love with you.”
- “Well, this can go on for as long as you like, but this has got to stop when I fall in love with someone else… you know what I mean, right?”
- “I am too scared of commitment.”
- “You are too good for me… I can never keep you happy if we get into a relationship.”
- “Our zodiacs don’t match to get into a relationship.”
- “I had an ex who was just like you… you know things didn’t work between us…”
- “I feel lonely at times; I wish I had someone to care for me.”
- “You make me feel so good…”
- “I kept talking about you to my best friend all day long!”
- “All I could do was think and talk about you on my Valentine’s Day date last night with my best friend!”
- “My parents won’t accept someone with a profession like yours… you know what I mean.”
- “My parents won’t like it if I date someone older to me.”
They would say everything like this to avoid getting into a relationship with you, but they would not think a thing before touching you like they have all the rights on you. And you? You would keep doing things thinking he is just naive and someday he’d understand he loves you because he makes you feel great and special and all that you have never experienced in the past with anyone else, ever!
There are probably a hundred more statements I can write here, but that’s just going to fill the space unnecessarily. My only intention to write this is to free you from the pain you are putting yourself into. Honey, honestly, he is never going to fall in love with you. He is probably cheating on you right now and you won’t even find out and even if you do, he would simply say – “well, you are not my girlfriend – remember?”
I say walk out of such an unhealthy relationship; it is a confusion – a mess you should be out of ASAP! It is going to choke you… in a literal way. No matter how much you do for such a cold-hearted evil-spirit monster – he would only smile reading this and not feel anything about it and you’d be in tears. Please move on and free yourself from such a dirty situation; trust me – you deserve much better in life.
Let us save ourselves from this new breed I call “The Confused Devils.”
Hi Bhairavi…..though loved the title of your article…but was disappointed the way you manifested it to the end with pessimism n biases against men at large…. !!
Breeds are different n so are responses even of the most loyalists..🙏🙏
Give space and free will to all to think logically for getting in n out of a relationship.
God bless….Amen!!!
This is strictly for those who belong to this “breed.” If you don’t, you should not take it personally – it is as simple as that.
Thanks for writing this. It’s really helped me. 🙂
I am so glad it did!
Dear Bhairavi,
I am literally crying tears of joy as I type this! I have always been a spiritual person and felt very in tune with the universe yet I have never tried to manifest before. At the beginning of June 2019 I found out that a man I was secretly in love with when I was 18-20 yrs old had just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. His prognosis very poor. I immediately reached out to him after all these years( we are now 46) to send him my best wishes and ended up telling him how madly in love I once was with him…He was so pleasantly surprised to hear from me and shocked me with the fact that he too had been secretly in love with me and wished I would have told him back then. It was only a matter of days from that correspondence that we were spending time together reconnecting. From the moment we came face to face again we could both feel the energy & chemistry…our souls felt as if they had blended. He would stand in front of me in total disbelief and say “Melissa you are the female version of me!”. We are most definitely twin flames… soulmates. By this time he was determined to fight this battle alone. He was single when he was diagnosed and felt it would be cruel & selfish of him to start a new relationship. He also didn’t dream he’d even be given the chance…who would be crazy enough to fall in love with a man that’s been given just 6-9 months left to live. All that being said, the Universe & God had their own plans for Dwayne & I…I had an urge to Love & care for this man that was way too strong to walk away from and He felt like I was the only thing in his life that he could make sense of, I was his soft place to fall and needed me to stay. We have both suffered great traumas as young children & both been hurt/abandoned by our previous partners. We knew this kind of love is a once in a lifetime experience and had decided we would rather feel a love like this and feel the loss then to have never felt this kind of love at all!
Move forward to 31 days ago…the doctor told him that the treatment had stopped working and it was over…his time was limited. That night we spent the next 18 hours in His bed trying to crawl as deep as we possible could inside of each other feeling as close to one another as we possibly could. He must have kissed me more times then I could possibly keep track of, looking back I should have known, my baby was trying to fill me full of enough love & kisses to carry me thru eternity. My baby was was saying goodbye and I just didn’t realize it in that moment. As I gathered myself to go home that morning I knew in my heart that once I walked Out of his door I would never hear his voice, feel his touch or see his face again. I kept quiet…I kissed the love of my life for what I thought was the very last time what the way without saying A stinking word. He was already hurting so much and it wouldn’t of been fair for me to protested his wishes. I felt so helpless. I was right call me he did not return my messages or calls . It was the scariest feeling because I was being forced to grieve him as if he had already died yet he was still a few blocks away. Around day 30 I begin to have panic attacks, not only did I think I was going to die I literally wanted to die. The panic came from knowing that once he was actually dead I wouldn’t have a chance to beg him for just five more minutes or one more kiss or one more hug….I was trying not to cause him any extra stress by begging for those things but by keeping quiet my body began to react with anxiety & full blown panic attacks. This brings me to why I reached out to you today… I honestly have no idea how I came across your article on manifesting a text. I actually didn’t have any idea that it was something that was possible. Like I said I have always been in touch with universe and felt as if it has guided me throughout my life I am a firm believer in what you put out in the world you will get back…if it’s positive you put out it will give back positive! I read the entire article and began the process of manifesting Dwayne’s text message to me yesterday about 7 am. I did it with a open heart, I believed with everything that I am that once I sent it out to the universe it was already done and in motion, I thanked the universe and Got on with my day, it was the first day in 30 days that I smiled, did not shed one tear from sadness & spent the day pampering myself and getting ready for my reunion with Dwayne last night. That’s right I manifested that he would text me by the end of the day, the text would come in the form of a text that he would send me when he wanted me to come over but didn’t want to ask…👀. I would receive those two eyeballs and I knew that he was wanting to see me but didn’t want to ask case it wasn’t convenient. AT 830 pm last night I was finishing cleaning the kitchen after a late dinner and heard my phone beep….Honestly I didn’t even consider that it was going to be Dwayne just yet, That’s how good I was at letting go of the situation. As I walked by my phone I glanced down, not planning on responding to ever it was at that moment, and I literally fell to my knees in total gratitude, relief & shock. After all it is been the longest 31 days of my life. The darkest 31 days of my life. I glanced at the screen and saw this….DWAYNE 👀
An absolute miracle took place, I literally believed I would never hear from him again. I must have gotten there in seconds after receiving it. I knocked, he opened immediately and just as he did the Very first time I came over to his house… He squatted down with his hands on his knees, prompting me as I’m standing on the porch sobbing to do the exact same pose, just like the first time and he says HI & I say HEY over & over again like two giddy love sick kids….until we both are cracking up? He then stands tall holding his arms out and I run and jump up wrapping my legs around his waist. I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO REPAY OR THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR WRITING THIS ARTICLE AND GIVING ME BACK MY MOST PRECIOUS GIFT!!!!! I CANT SAY IT ENOUGH OR MORE SINCERE…THIS WORKS EVERYONE, YOU ONLY HAVE TO BELIEVE!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I am deeply touched with this comment. How is your man, right now? I so wish I could do something to steal a few years and give them to you both. Keep me informed.
Thank you for being kind enough to let me know this works. I am grateful.
Lots of love and light to you, sister.
Blessed be <3